“A lack of transparency results in distrust and a deep sense of insecurity.” – Dalai Lama Attachment styles develop within the context of your earliest relationships… the ones with your parent(s) or primary caregiver(s). According to attachment theory, these formative relationships serve as the foundation from which you develop an understanding of how relationships work, what…

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“The years teach much which the days never knew.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson Many people have a subjective inner sense of being older or younger than their chronological age.  This subjective side of aging is termed age identity… the age that someone feels like they are.  What do you think makes the difference between a 30…

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 “We all have a better guide in ourselves, if we would attend to it, than any other person can be.” – Jane Austen When you begin to move towards a desired direction in your life, there is often an accompanying sense of excitement, anxiety, and hesitancy.  Everything that is “new” is “unknown” in some way,…

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“But I do nothing upon myself, and yet I am my own executioner.” – John Donne In my last post, “Stop Self-Sabotage for Good – Part One,” I explored two main types of self-sabotaging behaviors identified in the October 2011 issue of Psychology Today: dodging emotions and procrastination.  We all engage in various forms of…

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“People seem not to see that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson In yesterday’s post, we learned about the basic principles underlying the Keirsey Temperament Sorter (KTS-II).  Dr. David Keirsey, educational psychologist and creator of the KTS-II, defines temperament as “a configuration of observable personality traits,…

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