Emotional Intelligence (EI) is a broad term related to interpersonal and intrapersonal qualities that can be measured as either a trait or ability. As a trait, EI encompasses a constellation of dispositions related to recognizing, processing, and effectively utilizing emotional information. In other words, people with healthy levels of trait EI tend to express more developed beliefs in their capacity for well-being, self-control, effective social interactions, and emotionality.
Research supports positive relationships between TEI and happiness, life satisfaction, and secure attachment levels in close relationships, just to name a few. Ability EI is one’s skillfulness in perceiving emotions, integrating emotional information with cognitions, understanding emotions, and regulating emotions in an effective manner. There is controversy over an agreed upon definition of EI in general, although the basic difference between ability EI and trait EI is related to how it is measured. For practical purposes, it is most useful to think of emotional intelligence as the degree to which you feel able or believe in your ability to notice, manage, and utilize emotion-laden content within the social and internal contexts.
“We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that deep inside us there is something valuable, worth listening to, worthy of our trust, sacred to our touch. Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” – E. E. Cummings When was the…Read More
“Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.” – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow In my last post, “Coping Skills to Release Sadness – Part One,” we began to explore various ways of actively releasing the emotion of sadness when it begins…Read More
“When I despair, I remember that all through history the way of truth and love have always won. There have been tyrants and murderers, and for a time, they can seem invincible, but in the end, they always fall. Think of it – always.”- Mahatma Gandhi Sadness is an emotional experience that is inherent to…Read More
“Be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars. In the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.” – Max Ehrmann During times of intense stress or overwhelming emotions, it is easy to lose sight of the importance of taking care of our…Read More
“Feelings like disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, resentment, anger, jealousy, and fear, instead of being bad news, are actually very clear moments that teach us where it is that we’re holding back. They teach us to perk up and lean in when we feel we’d rather collapse and back away. They’re like messengers that show us, with…Read More
“Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.” – Aristotle Many of us have a tendency…Read More
“We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men; and among those fibers, as sympathetic threads, our actions run as causes, and they come back to us as effects.” – Herman Melville Emotions play a crucial role in effective communication with others. When you are mindfully in touch with…Read More
“It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head — it is the unique intersection of both.” – David Caruso We have all had experiences with people who seem to have extraordinary emotional intelligence. Perhaps we are unaware of the…Read More
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” – Buddha When anger is unexplored or misunderstood, it is easy for it to become an overwhelming and destructive force. It doesn’t have to be this way. It is…Read More
“Our envy always lasts longer than the happiness of those we envy.” – François Duc de La Rochefoucauld Most of us have experienced pangs of envy at some point in life. It may feel like a knot in the pit of your stomach as one of your colleagues or peers receives praise or admiration. Perhaps you…Read More