“It belongs to the imperfection of everything human that man can only attain his desire by passing through its opposite.” – Søren Kierkegaard In my last post, “16 Universal Desires & What Drives Your Behavior – Part One,” we explored the first eight of 16 universal human desires, the ways in which those desires drive…
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“The important thing is to strive towards a goal which is not immediately visible. That goal is not the concern of the mind, but of the spirit.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupéry While we are each filled with individual differences, nuances, and uniqueness, there is evidence that we all gravitate toward 16 universal human desires. It’s…
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“We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. We grow sometimes in one dimension, and not in another, unevenly. We grow partially. We are relative. We are mature in one realm, childish in another.” – Anaïs Nin Have you ever wondered why you may repeat unhealthy, yet familiar, patterns in relationships with others or why you have…
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“You don’t really understand human nature unless you know why a child on a merry-go-round will wave at his parents every time around – and why his parents will always wave back.” – William D. Tammeus Your adult attachment style has developed as a result of repetitive interpersonal interactions with important caregivers or parents as…
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“The years teach much which the days never knew.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson Many people have a subjective inner sense of being older or younger than their chronological age. This subjective side of aging is termed age identity… the age that someone feels like they are. What do you think makes the difference between a 30…
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“Neurosis is always a substitute for legitimate suffering.” – Carl Jung We all engage in various forms of self-deception. Defense mechanisms protect us not only from other people, but from knowledge within ourselves that we are not yet ready to face. Many of our defense mechanisms operate out of conscious awareness or simply happen so…
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”We all have a better guide in ourselves, if we would attend to it, than any other person can be.” – Jane Austen When you begin to move towards a desired direction in your life, there is often an accompanying sense of excitement, anxiety, and hesitancy. Everything that is “new” is “unknown” in some way,…
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“But I do nothing upon myself, and yet I am my own executioner.” – John Donne In my last post, “Stop Self-Sabotage for Good – Part One,” I explored two main types of self-sabotaging behaviors identified in the October 2011 issue of Psychology Today: dodging emotions and procrastination. We all engage in various forms of…
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“Self-destruction is the effect of cowardice in the highest extreme.” – Daniel Defoe Have you had the experience of shooting yourself in the foot? How about stabbing yourself in the back? Often times, the enemy that we least expect to do us harm lies within. We have all had the experience of getting in our…
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“One must have chaos in oneself in order to give birth to a dancing star.” – Friedrich Nietzsche We all carry an image of ourselves in our minds of who we are, what we are like, and what qualities we have. We form this sense of self through repeated experiences in the world with others…
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