“You can’t shake hands with a clenched fist.” – Indira Gandhi When conflict occurs, the first thing to focus on is how to take responsibility for your own role in the situation.  Since the only thing we truly have control over is our own behavior, it is important to first turn inward to focus on…

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“Everything becomes a little different as soon as it is spoken out loud.” – Hermann Hesse When we experience conflict with others, we must remember that there are two people involved who each have valid needs.  Dialectical behavior therapy includes a focus on interpersonal effectiveness, which provides us with tools to navigate our interactions with…

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“Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it.  That factor is attitude.” – William James No matter how skilled we are in navigating our social worlds, obstacles or blocks to interpersonal effectiveness are bound to arise from time to time.  When…

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“Man is a knot into which relationships are tied.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupéry Relationships are inextricably linked to human life.  We depend on one another for connection, meaning, and a sense of purpose.  While developing one’s core sense of identity and self-sufficiency are invaluable to our development into strong dynamic adults, we are not separate…

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