Interdependence involves a balance between autonomy (the ability to function independently) and leaning on one another. It’s crucial to recognize that within the context of all interpersonal relationships, we affect one another. To presume that our actions, or lack thereof, within a relational context affect no one but ourselves is clueless at best and perhaps narcissistic at worst. When a relationship is based on interdependence, each person takes responsibility for their own feelings and behaviors.

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“Let a fool hold his tongue and he will pass for a sage.” – Publilius Syrus Most people have heard about the importance of being assertive in social contexts.  Generally, one of the first things that comes to mind when thinking about “being assertive” involves getting one’s own needs met in a respectful, yet proactive…

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“The giving of love is an education in itself.” – Eleanor Roosevelt We all have patterns in relationships… what types of partners we choose at different points in our lives, where we usually meet these partners, and how the relationship progresses.  While each relationship is different in many ways, it is important to recognize that…

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“I love her and that’s the beginning of everything.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald What makes the difference between a healthy love that lasts versus one that fails to stand the test of time?  According to Judith S. Wallerstein, PhD, co-author of the book The Good Marriage: How and Why Love Lasts, research indicates that successful marriages involve…

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