Posts Tagged ‘interpersonal effectiveness’
Basic Assertiveness Skills for Interpersonal Effectiveness
“To know what you prefer, instead of humbly saying Amen to what the world tells you you ought to prefer, is to have kept your soul alive.” – Robert Louis Stevenson Interpersonal effectiveness is one of the four modules of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) that focuses on specific skills to draw upon for effective communication,…
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How to Apply Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills
“Let us never negotiate out of fear. But, let us never fear to negotiate.” – John F. Kennedy In our relationships with others, we inevitably need things from them at times just as they need things from us at other times. The exchanges that we have with others about how to get our own needs…
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Do You Have a Passive or Aggressive Interpersonal Style?
“The secret of many a man’s success in the world resides in his insight into the moods of men and his tact in dealing with them.” – J.G. Holland Our patterns of relating to others have an incredible impact on all of our relationships. We generally learn our adult styles of relating to others through…
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5 Essential Conflict Management Skills
“You can’t shake hands with a clenched fist.” – Indira Gandhi When conflict occurs, the first thing to focus on is how to take responsibility for your own role in the situation. Since the only thing we truly have control over is our own behavior, it is important to first turn inward to focus on…
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Negotiate Effectively: Classic Compromise Solutions
“Better bend than break.” – Scottish proverb In yesterday’s post, we learned how to use the dialectical behavior therapy tool of R-A-V-E-N to prepare ourselves for effective negotiation. When we are in a situation involving conflict or even mild disagreement, it is important that we feel confident in our ability to compromise. When we compromise,…
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How to Negotiate Using R-A-V-E-N
“Everything becomes a little different as soon as it is spoken out loud.” – Hermann Hesse When we experience conflict with others, we must remember that there are two people involved who each have valid needs. Dialectical behavior therapy includes a focus on interpersonal effectiveness, which provides us with tools to navigate our interactions with…
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Identify 8 Obstacles to Interpersonal Effectiveness
“Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” – William James No matter how skilled we are in navigating our social worlds, obstacles or blocks to interpersonal effectiveness are bound to arise from time to time. When…
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Using “D-E-A-R M-A-N” to Get What You Want
What on earth is D-E-A-R M-A-N and how is it supposed to help you get what you want in relationships? Good question. This mnemonic device was developed by Dr. Marsha Linehan as a component of Dialectical Behavior Therapy to help remind people of the basic skills involved in getting what you want in relationships in…
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