Category Archives: Interpersonal Relationships

Interpersonal Relationships with friends, coworkers, loved ones, and people in general are impacted by many factors. In any interpersonal exchange, each party brings their own unique set of qualities, expectations, and interaction style to the table. Relationships can develop naturally, effortlessly, and harmoniously in some cases. Other times relationships can form based on an intense interpersonal connection… and some relationships don’t occur at all. A vital component to creating meaningful, respectful, and authentic relationships with others involves taking responsibility for your own behaviors and expectations. When you begin to realize that the only person’s behavior you can truly “control” is your own, freedom and tranquility are within reach. It is possible to become mindfully aware of your personal style of interacting with others through being open to feedback without defensiveness, willing to alter or let go of maladaptive behaviors, and reasonably flexible in making compromises.

In any relationship, be it a friendship or marriage, no one is going to get “all” of their needs met “all” of the time; to believe this deprives each person of the opportunity to learn and grow within the context of a relationship. There are many skills and strategies that can be learned and employed within relationships to increase harmony, decrease conflict, and reach compromises. The trick is to make the choice to put them into practice in the moment. By becoming more mindfully connected with the present moment, it is possible to increase awareness of times when maladaptive interpersonal patterns are occurring. Mindful awareness provides the space for you to choose your behaviors with greater intention and do your part to achieve a positive outcome. Interactions with others won’t always go smoothly, but there is peace in knowing that you have the freedom to choose how you will engage with others.

5 Evidence-Based Strategies to Strengthen Your Relationship

5 Evidence-Based Strategies to Strengthen Your Relationship

“The art of love… is largely the art of persistence.” – Albert Ellis Relationships resemble living organisms in many ways… they require nourishment, room to grow, and maintenance in order to thrive. Much like caring for a fragile living thing, the vitality of a relationship is largely dependent upon effective care. When a relationship is…

Stop Trying to Change Your Partner: Change Your Attitude – Part Two

Stop Trying to Change Your Partner - Change Your Attitude - Part Two

“Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens.” – Kahlil Gibran My last post, “Stop Trying to Change Your Partner: Change Your Attitude –…

Stop Trying to Change Your Partner: Change Your Attitude – Part One

Stop Trying to Change Your Partner and Start Changing Yourself

“Our capacity to make peace with another person and with the world, depends very much on our capacity to make peace with ourselves.” – Thich Nhat Hanh Relationships naturally go through various stages of development and changes over time as couples transition between romance, conflict, and resolution. Quite often, the same qualities that served as powerful early…

Identify Problematic Relationship Patterns & Break the Cycle

Identify Problematic Relationship Patterns and Build a Stronger Bond

“Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand.” – Emily Kimbrough Valentine’s Day is an opportunity to take an honest, gentle, and loving look at your relationship and reflect on ways that you can strengthen your loving bond. When you take the time to mindfully…

5 Steps to Move From Conflict to Harmony in Relationships

5 Steps to Move From Conflict to Harmony in Relationships

“Well timed silence hath more eloquence than speech.” – Martin Farquhar Tupper A great deal of unnecessary conflict in relationships occurs due to miscommunication, mismatched expectations, or insensitivity. When you notice the beginning signs of potential conflict in your relationships with others, you can take proactive steps toward restoring harmony before things escalate. Many steps…

How to Practice Assertive Listening

How to Practice Assertive Listening

“Let a fool hold his tongue and he will pass for a sage.” – Publilius Syrus Most people have heard about the importance of being assertive in social contexts.  Generally, one of the first things that comes to mind when thinking about “being assertive” involves getting one’s own needs met in a respectful, yet proactive…

9 Questions to Identify Relationship Patterns

9 Questions to Identify Relationship Patterns

“The giving of love is an education in itself.” – Eleanor Roosevelt We all have patterns in relationships… what types of partners we choose at different points in our lives, where we usually meet these partners, and how the relationship progresses.  While each relationship is different in many ways, it is important to recognize that…

The Effects of Gratitude in Relationships

The Effects of Gratitude in Relationships

“He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.” – Epictetus Gratitude has profound positive effects on our relationships with others and our overall well-being.  Even when times feel bleak or hopeless, there is much for which to be grateful.  Take…

9 Psychological Tasks for Lasting Love

9 Psychological Tasks for Lasting Love

“I love her and that’s the beginning of everything.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald What makes the difference between a healthy love that lasts versus one that fails to stand the test of time?  According to Judith S. Wallerstein, PhD, co-author of the book The Good Marriage: How and Why Love Lasts, research indicates that successful marriages involve…

10 Simple Truths to Maintain a Healthy Relationship

10 Techniques to Maintain a Healthy Relationship

“The giving of love is an education in itself.” – Eleanor Roosevelt Relationships have the capacity to provide us with emotional support, nurturance, friendship, and love.  The very same relationships are also capable of causing emotional distress, deprivation, and loneliness.  The difference between those two types of relationships is that the healthy relationship rests upon…

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