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“One thing is sure. We have to do something. We have to do the best we know how at the moment… If it doesn’t turn out right, we can modify it as we go along.” - Franklin D.Roosevelt Problems in life can take on a variety of forms, but many of them share common characteristics that…
“That the birds of worry and care fly over you head, this you cannot change, but that they build nests in your hair, this you can prevent.” – Chinese Proverb Worry can be useful when it is experienced in the form of eustress, motivating you to take important actions or solve problems in your life….
“Use what talents you possess; the woods would be very silent if no birds sang except those that sang best.” – Henry van Dyke Perfectionistic ways of thinking and behaving are often rooted in deep-seated core beliefs that can be quite resistant to change. The need for perfection can be related to closely attaching one’s…
“Men succeed when they realize that their failures are the preparation for their victories.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson Core beliefs are fundamental views that we have internalized about ourselves, other people, and the world. These beliefs are generally so central to our identity and worldview that they often go unquestioned. We often develop core beliefs…
“Who is more foolish, the child afraid of the dark or the man afraid of the light?” – Maurice Freehill How does fear hold you back from doing the things in life that you truly wish to do? In what ways does your fear keep you locked into perpetual patterns of behavior that restrict your…
“The great and glorious masterpiece of man is to know how to live to purpose.” – Michel de Montaigne As you begin to live your life in 2012, ask yourself how you might be able to make successful New Year’s resolutions this year. How might your personally chosen goals for yourself have a greater chance…
“The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” – Albert Einstein In my last post, “How to Challenge Cognitive Distortions – Part One,” we began to explore some common types of cognitive distortions and the accompanying challenge(s) to each. Just about all of us…
“No problem can withstand the assault of sustained thinking.” – Voltaire Our experience itself is not responsible for how we feel… it is our thoughts that assign meaning to and interpret our experience. These meanings and interpretations – the stories we tell ourselves – result in the experience of emotion. We all have an enormous…
“The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.” – Albert Ellis Sometimes life seems frightening, with anxiety looming around every corner. In many ways,…
“Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it.” – Salvador Dali Perfectionists tend to hold very high standards for themselves and their loved ones. They tend to visualize an ultimate successful outcome and excel at mobilizing all of their resources to move towards their chosen goal(s). While this can be a wonderful and…
